I have a new coffee-making toy. Five minutes into breakfast this morning I asked my family, ‘What do you think of the coffee?’
The reply? ‘We haven’t evaluated it.’
How is that possible? How can people drink coffee and NOT evaluate each mouthful?
Each person has experiences which influence their expectations associated with particular words. Leading self and others well requires at least a vague awareness of those expectations, and at best a deep appreciation for the potential impact of our words.
If we are not conscious of the power of our words, we risk damage. My experience has been that people are generally, loosely aware of the impact of their words on others. Less so of the damage on themselves.
The first person you lead is you. The only person you lead 24/7 is you.
Whether in the home, school, or workplace, how well we lead self influences how well we lead others. The words we use to describe our experiences don’t define us, but they can frame how we view the future. The names we call ourselves don’t capture the essence of who we are, but they can shape our view of ourselves.
What are the words you use? Do they build a sense of confidence in your abilities? What are the names you have for yourself? Do they strengthen and inspire you?
I’m returning to my maiden name; Kalie Gladwin becomes Kalie Ashenden. It doesn’t change who I am, but it does capture who I thought I might be back when I was a kid.
I’ve been listening to a whisper of a memory of a dream when I had no doubt I was creative and bold, and when I knew my story mattered.
Join me at http://www.kalieashenden.com. It’s the beginning of a journey, and journeys are way more fun if the experience is shared.
I think each of us is creative and bold. And I know, much like coffee, everyone’s stories matter.